For many years I was a Play Therapist, working with children and families.
Many of the children had experienced abuse of some form and often it was very severe.
People would comment that I must be some sort of angel to work with people in so much pain, but that was not the way I experienced it. For me, to be alongside someone as they went through that journey was utterly inspiring.
To be with someone so courageous who had been so hurt who could still trust me and move towards healing was the greatest gift I could be given; and the joy we both felt at each breakthrough was absolutely amazing.
I stopped because the organisation I worked for ceased to be able to attract funding. In spite of the changes clients experience and their increased quality of life, this is difficult to quantify. The work is slow and painstaking and in the age of quick fixes, it is not the most popular choice for funders with increasing demand for their resources.
In many ways I agree; therapy is unneccesary for the vast majority of people, coaching is far more appropriate; and years spent looking back at pain (which is what therapy is perceived to be) is never going to be the most effective way forward for any other than a few people.
It was not the work, but living with the uncertainty about my job security that pushed me into working for myself and a change of direction.
I figured that I would have the same amount of responsibilty but could control my own life far more effectively than handing that to other people.
It didn't turn out quite like that though.
I found working alone horribly isolating and hated marketing my services. The things I was required to do went completely against everything I had known working in large and small charities.
I had absorbed the ethos that to promote oneself is in some way selling out to the devil. Never mind all those limiting beliefs about what I was worth (charities don't pay well in spite of the massive expertise they hold).
There were so many new things that I had to do, many of which were totally outside my comfort zone. Now I am all for extending our boundaries but there comes a point when we have to admit that it would be better for someone else to do this or that job. After many years honing my expertise like a precious jewel, this one was hard for me to swallow.
I felt at the same time that some of these tasks were beneath me, since they "should" be easy and that therefore I had no talent, since I couldn't do them.
Struggling with my computer and the ways of thinking I was required to use drove me demented and anyway I was bored by these jobs too and that demotivated me; so I went round and round in circles castigating myself for my ineffectiveness. Which just meant I did less "real work".
Never mind, I wasn't having any fun, what with the guilt and the ever sinking self esteem.
Somehow and mostly thanks to my partner, i managed to pull myself out of this mire and to begin again to recognise my beautiful gifts.
I have many talents which people do recognise (if I just let them see) and they are willing to pay handsomely for them.
I have been able to attract someone who is acting as an agent for my business coaching work using Wealth Dynamics and someone else who is helping me to produce products explaining Wealth Dynamics.
At the same time I am returning to my old skills and creating Play Days for adults, not as therapy, as fun and they are creating lots of attraction.
It's been quite a journey and one in which I have had to really confront myself.
Having been the expert for so many years had meant I was never questioned, never needed to examine what I was doing or why.
Answering these questions is good for us all, even if it means we face a few demons along the way.
And although I don't believe that navel gazing in itself is useful, if we apply the insights it gives us and don't just use it as an opportunity to wallow in our situation, it can move us forward brilliantly.
So, thanks to quite a bit of looking inward I became able to look out again; to create a plan and to carry it through and now I have a thriving and varied paractice and people around to support me.
What more could anyone ask?
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Do we have to choose between joy and wealth?
Then, I decided to make more money and found myself sacrificing doing what I love.
It wasn't supposed to work like that. Setting up my own business was supposed to allow me to do more of what I love, but I got so bogged down with admin and marketing I did less of the work I love than in any job.I thought about it so much I made it happen and then in reaction to that I stopped making any money at all for a while. This didn't help!
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The talk in the media is all of the economic downturn, the
economic winter, tightening our belts and businesses going bust.
As heart-centred entrepreneurs and business people we know that we need to continue looking forward.
Our strength is in our outlook and our ability to move fast. Most of us are as lean and mean as it’s possible to be already.
So what does this winter mean to us and what should we do to be ready for the spring we know is just around the corner?
Wealth Dynamics is based on the I Ching; the oldest book known and probably the first book ever written.
It was used by the emperors of China to run that vast country for over 5000 years and its insights are still of enormous value to us.
The value of Wealth Dynamics to us today is that it uses the symbolism of the year to explain complex concepts and enables us to make use of the understanding of the cyclic nature of all the things we already have within our businesses.
So what does it mean?
Winter is being used as a term by the media to scare us into buying more papers; but what actually does happen in winter?
It is true that for some plants and animals winter means death, but this is for a minority only.
Winter is part of the cycle, it is not an aberration, it is both natural and necessary.
Even for those that die, winter is often a planned for event.
So, plants that were only intended to live for one cycle die but only after spreading their seeds.
Some animals die but their bodies nurture the earth and other animals so that next time around the survivors are stronger.
The majority of both plants and animals survive.
What do you need to do?
How does this translate into something meaningful for business?
Are you a business who will spend this time creating new ideas so that when the upturn (spring) comes you have lots of new innovative products ready?
Do you have enough put by to simply wait it out like an oak tree?
Are you hibernating in the hope that all will be as it was when you wake?
Are you hoping to survive until you come up with the perfect strategy?
You need to know which you are doing and why.
Perhaps the best thing for you to do over the winter is to contract, look inward and plan what you will do when the tide turns?
The all important thing is to understand what it is you are doing and why you are doing it and not just follow the knee jerk reactions of the scare-mongerers in the media.
For support and guidance you can both trust and understand take a look at our website and consider some of our expert services.
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"The BRC (old name of Focus on Cashflow group) is no longer something I turn up to once every 3 months and get on the phone to once a month. The BRC is the very reason WHY I get up in the morning and focus on increasing my cashflow." PF Internet Marketer
"If you all felt inspired by Friday how do you think I felt knowing I WILL MOVE FORWARD this week, inspired and prodded by the group?" DN Financial Consultant
"I came away
from Friday's meeting feeling re-energised and I would like to thank everyone
for the wonderful support, warmth and energy this Club is
providing." BW Lawyer/Mediator
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Hattie Hasan and Mica May were both among the very first group of people trained as
Wealth Dynamics Master Practitioners.
Hattie Hasan
Maverick Hattie Hasan has
always had to improve things.
She has channeled her
innovation into creating systems that work, from systemising the nursery school
she ran so that it could operate without her so that she could assist the
children who really needed help, to recognising and establishing a better way
from manual trades-people to operate; Hattie has never been able to tolerate an
inefficient system.
Shortly after she trained as
a WDMP Hattie began to apply this system to ball organising, making a fearfully
effective fundraising ball out of the first one she ever attended.
Hattie’s current businesses are
organised completely on Wealth Dynamics principles; whether providing a "green" and sustainable power solution for a city/state or seeking out obtaining anything you want, to make your event
truly extraordinary, from that special celebrity, to an ethically mined diamond
to organising a complete underwater event just for you.
Mica May
Look
around you at those people whose teams and families operate like a smoothly oiled
machine. If you want this, Mica’s expertise as the first Wealth Dynamics Master
Practitioner for Relationships will help you achieve it.
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within Relationships -either work or family, is subtle, fascinating and the most
powerful positive tool of its kind. Focusing on the “space between” the
profiles and what happens there, it can be utilized wherever there are two or
more people; dissolving misunderstandings based on differences of approach and
creating dream teams at work and at home
Mica has always focused on the dynamics of
relationships rather than examining the behaviour of individuals.
By exposing what is happening within a
relationship Mica enables those involved to address and disentangle the core
issues swiftly and effectively, which is why her style is so useful for
businesses.
“No matter how independent we are as
individuals, we are all involved in a whole series of relationships.
Understanding how we function within these and why other people do this so very
differently is vital to our success.”
Mica uses Wealth Dynamics to smooth out any difficulties and begin or deepen communication within teams and groups to allow a greater flow of wealth and harmony.
You can be coached in Wealth Dynamics by Mica by contacting her on email mica@micamay.com or by phone ![]()

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or you can attend a Focus on Cashflow group with Hattie and Mica together by contacting Hattie by email at hattie@xlmanchester.net or phone +44 (0) 782 8921 399
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As we generate cash through our lives, we all face the WEALTH PARADOX.
What is the Wealth Paradox?
The Wealth Paradox is: The more money you have, the more opportunities you have to lose it.
Money will always fall or rise to the level of your wealth. We've all
heard of people winning the lottery or an inheritance and then blowing
it spectacularly. If most of us were given $1m tomorrow, most of us
would have lost a significant portion of it within a year. Why? Because
we would spend much of it, and what we invest we would invest in the
wrong place, in the wrong way, at the wrong time. Yes, this does mean
we are destined to keep seeing whatever money we make drain away -
until it reaches the level of our WEALTH. Conversely, you can take away
all the money of a truly WEALTHY person, and you will find they have
made the money back again often in a totally unreasonably short period
of time. Money will always rise or lower to your level of wealth.
Truly wealthy people have something called attraction. They have invested their TIME in the components of wealth: Their wealth network (the people they know), their financial fitness (knowing how to play the game), and clarity of their path (we all have a path of least resistance). The wealthy didn't get wealthy by investing their money, they got wealthy by investing their time. They invested their time on building these three components. When a wealthy person loses all their money, they haven't lost their network, mindset or clarity, and these make it increasingly easy for them to turn the money tap straight back on again.
THE WEALTH EQUATION by Roger Hamilton
All wealth is built from a basic equation: WEALTH = VALUE x LEVERAGEThink of a river. Many think the river is the water, but how can it be if the water you see that makes up the river has disappeared down the river the very next moment! The water flow is a result of two aspects of the river. One is the height (which controls the speed) and the second is the width and depth (which controls the volume). All money flow is determined by wealth in the same way. Money will only flow where there is a value difference - it will always flow from high value to low value. So value is the height. The volume of flow at any moment is as a result of the leverage: Leverage is the width of the river. Believe it or not, every single wealthy person on this planet has created money flow by creating value, and leveraging it. Sounds simple... but the challenge is that people appear to have made their wealth in different ways. They have - but only in one of eight different ways. These eight ways are as a result of the way in which they naturally create value and leverage it. This is the basis of Wealth Dynamics.
THE OPPOSITES OF THE EQUATION
VALUE
There are two opposites to how value is created. This is based on the way that your thinking brain is naturally oriented:
1. Some of us have a tendency towards high frequency 'intuitive' thinking. We will create value through the first of the opposites: INNOVATION. The value is in something new - faster, smaller, bigger, cheaper, better, etc.
2. Some of us have a tendency towards low frequency 'sensory' thinking. We will create value through the other opposite: TIMING. The value is in time - why innovate when you know when to buy and when to sell?LEVERAGE
There are also two opposites to how we leverage. This is based on our action dynamic - the way we naturally translate our thinking into action:
1. Some of us have an internal action dynamic, where we will rely more on systems and numbers to interpret and act. We will leverage by being able to answer the question "How can this happen without me" and to leverage we: MULTIPLY.
2. Some of us have an external action dynamic, where we will rely more on people and communication to interpret and act. We will leverage by being able to answer the question "How can this only happen with me" and to leverage we: MAGNIFY.These four opposites make up the four sides of the Wealth Dynamics Square.
THE CREATOR
Wealth from products: Examples include Bill Gates, Richard Branson, Walt DisneyTHE STAR
Wealth from their personal brand: Examples include Michael Jordan, Michael Jackson, Michael Schumache and one not called Michael, Oprah WinfreyTHE SUPPORTER
Wealth from leadership: Examples include Jack Welch, Steve Balmer, Steve CaseTHE DEAL MAKER
Wealth from the deal: Examples include Donald Trump, Rupert Murdoch, Li Ka Shing, David GeffenTHE TRADER
Wealth from trades: Examples include George Soros, Kirk KerkorianTHE ACCUMULATOR
Wealth from appreciation: Examples include Warren Buffett, Paul AllenTHE LORD
Wealth from cashflow: Examples include John D Rockefeller, John Paul GettyTHE MECHANIC
Wealth from system: Examples include Sam Walton, Ray Krok, Jeff Bezos
Each profile is a different game with different rules. What every one
of the above wealth creators has in common is that they played their
game and their game only, day in, day out. Where a wealth creator
changes game (Steve Case - Supporter to Deal Maker, Martha Stewart -
Star to Trader, Richard Li, Deal Maker to Supporter) they quickly lose
their wealth. Each profile requires an entirely different strategy, a
different team, different mentors, a different wealth network and a
different financial fitness. Ultimately, the ongoing success of each
comes down to sustained focus in that profile. Bill Gates didn't get
into deal making at a time when the entire tech industry did. Instead,
he focused even more on being creative. Warren Buffett didn't get into
trading when everyone was telling him to, but instead continued to
focus his time on accumulating the right assets at the right time - and
doing it with passion.
- WARREN BUFFETT
A lot more! All businesses, industries, countries, and
relationships go through the same seasons in the same sequence, which
corresponds to the Wealth Dynamics square. This means that each profile
not only needs to know how to build the right wealth that suits their natural
tendencies, but can gain a sensitivity for what to do and when. The
basis of the profiling system goes back to the same roots as Jungian
psychometric testing (such tests as MBTI and DISC). This is the basis
of the natural laws: found in Western physics (quantum mechanics, chaos
theory), found in Indian philosophy (mind-body-spirit, chakras), found
in Chinese systems (I Ching, Feng Shui) and which existed long before
humankind.
Where this profiling takes on a profound role
is in the understanding of the energy frequencies which we can harness
to amplify attraction and to build our wealth systematically. (Wealth
here is defined as the power to both create and contribute value). This
system enables you to chart an extraordinary clarity about your path of
least resistance - what you do most naturally, with the least stress
and the most enjoyment. You will gain incredible clarity on how to
invest your time, what the next steps are, who you need to learn from,
where you need to be, what you need to do - and equally important, what
not to waste time on any further. Every step is then a step in the
right direction.
"If you want to learn basketball, don't spend your time on the football pitch."
- ROGER HAMILTON
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Are You Serious About Increasing Your Wealth?
If the answer is yes, then join a Focus on Cashflow group now.
By participating in a Wealth Dynamics Focus on Cashflow group you will be committing to developing your wealth according to your personal wealth strategy. You will gain insights into seeing how you can use your mindset to generate increasing cashflow. Through the year you will consistently make steps forward, as you learn and implement, the powerful strategies behind the ‘10 Levels of Wealth’ as designed by internationally renowned business entrepreneur Roger Hamilton.
Limited to eight members per round table, the quarterly sessions are held locally to you and are delivered face to face by Hattie Hasan and Mica May, Master Practitioners of Wealth Dynamics.
Mica and Hattie regularly meet with Asia's leading wealth consultant, Roger Hamilton.You will receive 1st class quality training.
Benefits of being a member:
Being held accountable to growing your wealth
Understand how to use your profile to leverage your wealth
Support in managing your cashflow
Growing wealth according to your personal wealth strategy
Connections & support from a group of like-minded entrepreneurs
Four half-day Board Meetings facilitated & mentored by Mica May and Hattie Hasan
Over the next 12 months, you will learn and execute strategies to multiply your income. Your path and strategy will be tailored specifically to you, your circumstances and your current resources. You will operate as a corporation, accountable to a Boardroom environment with the coaching and mentoring to create a disciplined approach to your wealth creation.
The Focus on Cashflow group is a set format for accelerating wealth creation. It meets on a quarterly basis and is limited to 8 members ensuring you receive top-quality attention. The meetings are delivered face-to-face by Hattie Hasan and Mica May, both among the first Wealth Dynamics Master Practitioners trained by Roger Hamilton.
For those committed to personal wealth creation, the Focus on Cashflow format and process will enable you to grow both your mindset and cash flow, making positive steps forward month by month as you learn and implement the powerful strategies behind the ’10 levels of wealth’.
Whilst it is not essential that you have taken your Wealth Dynamics Profile assessment before deciding to join this Focus Group, the only pre-requisite will be that you take one before our first meeting and spend at least one hour with one of us, in person or over the phone to ensure you understand the basics of what your profile results mean to you.
Taking your profile test is something you can do now, independently of any Focus on Cashflow group, to uncover your path of least resistance towards wealth creation. To take your profile NOW click here.
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